ARTICLES
On style
When your closet doesn’t feel like YOU, the solution isn’t to ignore it. It’s learning how to reimagine the stuff you already own in new ways.
How many times a day do you pick up your phone? How many of those phone pick-ups were necessary (ie. I need to make a phone call), versus how many were driven by impending boredom and a guaranteed dopamine hit (ie. I want to check Instagram). If these companies can KEEP ME HOOKED, they can sell my attention to advertisers. It’s time to TAKE OUR ATTENTION BACK, sisters.
I took a thing that was driving me bananas EVERY SINGLE DAY, and I turned it into something that makes me feel lucky as hell AND earns me cold hard cash.
When I was stuck in blame, I felt helpless.
When I turned it around and made it my problem, I found a solution.
In other words, I am consciously and intentionally updating my brain's memory archives. In real time! By breaking this one memory down into a dozen (or more!) mini-memories, and then attaching each of those mini-memories to a feeling, I've stacked the swimming-in-ice-cold-water-IS-PLEASURABLE memories in my favor!
It’s hard and scary to meet a BRAND-NEW part of you. My brain shifted away from thinking something was happening TO ME, to wondering if something was happening FOR ME.
And do you know what I realized... PERSONAL STYLE isn't categorical. It doesn't live inside any one box (preppy, classy, outdoorsy, hippy, etc.). PERSONAL STYLE is a reflection of who I am on the inside. And who I am on the inside is complex, dynamic, ever-changing, and sometimes even contradictory!
AND THAT'S TOTALLY NORMAL!
If I don't want my clothes to feel like a costume, then I have PAY ATTENTION to how I feel, and how I want to feel.
It's an INSIDE JOB! And I AM THE GOLDEN THREAD!!
Once you learn how to FIND SAFETY INSIDE YOUR OWN BODY, and stop looking for approval outside yourself, then WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE matters far less than WHAT YOU FEEL LIKE. And ironically, the confidence that comes when you LOVE HOW YOU FEEL is just about the MOST BEAUTIFUL THING a woman can ever wear.