Necklaces can be tricky, can't they? Many women I know avoid necklaces altogether because they just can't figure them out! How long is too long? How short is too short? And... How in heck am I supposed to wear this thing?! The short answer is this: It depends on YOU. Your features to be exact.
You may know intuitively what works and what doesn't work, but the question is - DO YOU KNOW WHY?
That was me for a long time. Sometimes I hit it just right, and the necklace would totally work. And then other times I just couldn't figure it out. My neck would look too long, too skinny, too short. But then one day, I happened upon a magic necklace-wearing formula, and now I nail it every single time!
So today I'm going to teach you the WHY. THE RULES! Not because I expect you to follow these rules, but because I want you to know how to break them with smarts.
It all comes down to finding your "balance points". It's not something I discovered on my own or made up so I could impress you with my skillz. I actually read about it in a book called The Triumph of Individual Style. It's a formula that great artists use to establish balance and proportions in their drawings/paintings. Knowing your balance points (we have two) can help you determine not only your necklace length, but also your shirt/collar neckline!
To help me do this today, I enlisted the help of my friend, Marta. I figure you see my mug enough, so thought I'd freshen things up. (Notice Marta's beautiful smiling face in the first series of pics? That's because the necklace she's wearing is her #1 Power Accessory! Missed the post last week on Discovering YOUR Power Accessory - Click HERE to read all about it!!)
FINDING YOUR FIRST BALANCE POINT
1. Measure the length of your face, from your hairline (A) to your chin (B). If you have bangs, you'll go from your bangs to your chin. A tape measure is not necessary... string, twine or a piece of spaghetti will do the trick.
2. Now, take that measurement, and let it fall from your chin (B) until it ends somewhere on your chest (C). THAT is your First Balance Point.
As you can see, the neckline of Marta's shirt falls on her First Balance Point!
FINDING YOUR SECOND BALANCE POINT
1. The first thing you need to do is find the widest part of your face. For some it could be your forehead, and others, it could be your jawline. For Marta, it's right around her cheekbones. Measure from the widest part of your face, to your chin.
2. Using that same measurement, start at your shoulder line, and let it fall until it ends. THAT is your Second Balance Point.
SUPER IMPORTANT BONUS - Take heed of the shape of your jawline. In other words, imagine taking a string and running it from the widest part of the left side of your face, down around your chin, and back up to the widest part of the right side of your face (like a "u"). Now take that shape, and translate that down to your Second Balance Point - from shoulder-line to shoulder-line. Note that the shape of Marta's necklace in this picture is in harmony with the shape of her jawline.
PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER
OK. Test time! Now that you've learned how to measure both your First and Second Balance Points, I want you to look at these pictures and tell me which necklace length is correct for Marta, A or B?
DING DING DING. B is the correct answer!! Isn't it obvious that A is too short for her? The necklace is swallowing her neck! The necklace could even be a tad bit longer in B, but perfection is not our goal here - visual balance is our goal.
Let's play again. In which picture is Marta rockin' her First AND Second Balance Points:
YAY! You guessed it. Marta has nailed it in photo A. This time though, her necklace is at her First Balance Point, and her shirt is at her Second Balance Point. In photo B - the necklace and neckline are competing. And actually, Marta's face looks a wee bit long in photo B - when it's not long at all in real life.
Ok. So now that you know the rules, I'm going to show you one of the many ways that I break them. In the silly-goof-ball picture below, my Second Balance Point is right around the neckline of the dress, and my First Balance Point is at the bottom of the lacy section of the dress. Notice that the necklace falls BELOW both balance points... but it still totally works because both balance points have already been met and are therefore already doing their job of creating visual balance. And, the droop of the necklace matches the shape of my jawline, adding to the overall balance and harmony of the outfit.
So what do you think? Isn't this a nifty little trick to help you figure out not just your necklace length, but your collar/neckline too? Spend some time in front of the mirror, take some measurements, and fiddle around with it. Practice Practice Practice. And experiment a bit. Once you get the hang of it, you won't need to measure anymore... you'll just know!!
Feel like you need to see more pictures? Scroll on down and check out some of my previous posts, because I'm almost always wearing a necklace!
Question for me? Feeling confused? Or are you SO excited to know this fancy little trick you just can't stand it? Leave a comment below and tell me all about it!! Because the best way for me to know that you're diggin' what I'm writin', is to let me know :)
Much love, xo Stasia
PS. You're welcome. :)