I LOVE my closet. It's not big. You certainly can't walk into it. It needs a major paint job. I don't use velvet hangers, let alone cherry wood fancy-pants hangers. And only five (yes, 5) things in my closet were purchased brand new (1 - a denim jacket I bought in Slovenia back in 2004, 2 - my favorite Miz Mooz tall brown boots, 3 - my red Dansko clogs which I've had since 2005 and were a gift from my mother, 4 - my Doc Martin boots, that I bought new over 20 years ago, and lastly, 5 - my Hobo wallet, which my husband gave me as a "pushing" gift after I delivered my almost 11-pound son).
People often assume that because I work as a Personal Stylist, my wardrobe and my closet must be HUGE.
Here's my truth:
I use (mostly) plastic hangers that I've picked up either at the dump or at the thrift store (though I do intend to upgrade to velvet hangers someday.) But for now, as long as my hangers are facing in the same direction, my closet isn't over-stuffed, and my clothes are generally categorized (jackets, dresses, shirts - white, gray, black, blues, peach/pink/red) I'm happy.
(And yes, I share the closet with my husband, half and half. His side has all the pinks and purples and baby blues!)
We each have a bureau as well, his and hers:
If I have to struggle even a teensy bit to get a drawer closed due to over-stuffing, something goes. We don't have clothing tucked into other places and spaces... this is it. And if it doesn't fit, we don't keep it.
HIS: Drawers 1 & 2 - undies Drawer 3 - socks Drawers 4 & 5 - t-shirts and long underwear Drawer 6 - pants/jeans
HERS: Drawer 1 - knits and long underwear Drawer 2 - socks and pants/jeans/cords Drawer 3 - sweaters/cardigans, skirts, pj's/hoodies
You can see that I keep my necklaces and bracelets out on display for me to see. It's a great way to remember to wear them!
I also have my scarves on display... because who wears scarves if they are bunched up in a bin or stuffed in a drawer?? [BRAG - I DIY'ed this scarf display from the side rails of a vintage crib!! My OWN design!!]
And yep, my earrings are also decoratively displayed:
Here's the bottom line ladies: having a walk in closet, $20 hangers, and a wardrobe full of expensive, tags-still-on, brand new clothes doesn't [necessarily] equal a pride-worthy closet.
Having a closet that you love requires something FAR more important:
In other words, you've got to like... LOVE, what you own. And it MUST be a reflection of who you are on the inside. You've got to get rid of the excess!
It can't be a space you use to fill a void, or a place that's so filled with sadness, longing and guilt that it makes your body ache.
To use the words of a client...
"I'm no longer filling my closet with expensive things to make me feel better. I am the one responsible for my well being, and no fancy pair of boots will bring me the self worth or self confidence I have been searching for. It has to come from inside of me, and making the outside reflect the me I want to be, or already am but just don't realize, is the best gift I could give myself."
YES YES YES!!
When I open the doors to my closet I feel ABUNDANCE. I don't have a lot, but I like (LOVE!) every single thing that I have, because it's a reflection of who I am on the inside.
My wish for you is that you too are swept with a wave of abundance and resonance every single time you open your closet doors. Because you deserve it.
To YOUR ABUNDANCE! xo Stasia