Yesterday I turned 40 (when I started writing this anyway... 3 days ago!). You probably already know that if you're on Facebook or Instagram, because of course, I had to tell everybody! Forty is a BIG DEAL. Because 40 is practically the same as 68. You've seen those age range demographic surveys... 18 - 22 23 - 28 29 - 32 33 - 39 40 - 107 See what I mean ;)
I held on to my 30's with all my might, but yesterday, with shaky knees and a heart so plump filled with love that I could hardly stand it, I embraced 40 with gold and gusto.
I decided I wanted a birthday party, so I planned one. I invited over some of my best most special gal-pals in the whole wide world. We sipped on gin + tonic, ate a meal fit for a queen, and indulged in the most decadent gluten free chocolate cake that I've ever had. We laughed loved and lived. And it was glorious.
Even my neighborhood threw me a surprise party that brought tears to my eyes.
And my husband and kids threw me a party, complete with a Pepperidge Farm chocolate cake, direct from the freezer section. A family tradition.
My husband gave me a card that read:
"Well Stasia Ol'gal - You're 40! Can you believe it? With your new inside-out congruency, you're looking younger than ever. You'd pass for 25! Happy Birthday my love, K"
Though passing for 25 is a bit of a stretch, he's got a point. Ten years ago I was dowdy and boring and I just didn't have the same zest for life that I do today. I'm more exhausted and overwhelmed and stressed-to-the-max than ever, but I feel a bajillion times better. And you know what I owe it to...
GETTING DRESSED EVERY DAMN DAY
And I don't mean just throwing any old clothes onto my weary tired and achy body. I mean taking the time to consciously get dressed every single day (save for a rainy tired cold indoor day like today). For a few moments every morning, I stand in silence, in front of my closet, and I think about how I want to FEEL. I tap into my essence (MY AWESOME), and I connect with my power, courage, brilliance, beauty, gratitude, patience and love. I burn through the BS that's often closer to the surface... you know, the self doubt and self criticism, the frustration and the stress, and unite with that sweet spot of my soul that is at the core of who I truly am.
Ten years ago, if I were tired, I'd dress tired. I'd dress to match how I WAS feeling, not how I WANTED to feel. And when I dressed tired, people perceived me as tired. And when I was perceived as tired, I acted tired. And when I acted tired... well, that never got me anywhere.
When I dress to reflect my essence, which is where my girl/women-power is rooted, then I am sooo much better equipped to handle the curve balls of life with a scream, hiccup and whole bunch of humor. Like in this picture, when my car was getting towed - for the second time in less than a week!! (NOTE - it was towed a third time 3 days later!!)
Those few minutes that I spend in my closet each morning are kind of like my morning meditation. My mind (which spins about a million miles a minute) quiets down and I become a bit more grounded. I'm not sitting on a cushion or inverted on a mat... I'm simply staring into my closet and tapping into my essence.
I LOVE that I've found something simple, something that I have to do every single day anyway, to use as my quiet-the-chatter-in-my-brain grounded-ness time because adding one more designated "to-do" thing to my list might put me over the edge. It's small. It's not earth shattering. I could do better. I could do more. But I do believe it helps me TAP INTO MY AWESOME, despite the chaos and overwhelm of this thing called Life in 2014.
So... how do you quiet-the-chatter on a daily basis?
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It's different for all of us, and I'm curious about yours. I'm most curious to learn how you take an everyday I-have-to-do-it-anyway practice and turn it into a grounded-ness practice. We can always learn from each other, so go ahead and share in the comments. If you don't have a grounding practice, perhaps you could try this TAP INTO YOUR AWESOME closet trick of mine. Heck, even if you do have something already - try it anyway! Can't hurt.
To YOUR AWESOME!!
PS. Consider this post a two-fer. Last week I was overwhelmed with turning 40 and throwing myself a party so I didn't get a post out on time. And this Thursday, I have two house guests moving in with my family. From Moldova! Have YOU ever heard of Moldova? Well, it's a tiny little country in Eastern Europe, and is where I served in the Peace Corps from 2003-2005. My Peace Corps host sister, Cristina, and her fiancé, are moving in with us until they can get themselves settled and established here in Vermont. I haven't seen her in 10 years... she was 13 the last time I saw her. Eeee. I'm so excited!